5 ways to catch a cheating partner

I get a lot of messages from people who desperately want to catch their partners in the act, cheating. Usually because their instincts tell them so but they don’t know if the signs or changes they see are because of something else in their relationship.
Like my friend Jocelyn, even when it’s obvious that her Rosco is having an affair with the sudden change in his character, she needs more proof.
For three weeks now, the guy has been coming home after midnight yet he leaves office at 4pm, he sleeps out on weekends and doesn’t even communicate yet when she complains he brushes it off.

Luckily, unlike in the days of our parents and grannies, you can easily get information on anything disturbing you. Here are some tactics that can help confirm your suspicions as long as your heart is ready for anything;

1 Change your timetable
What cheating partners usually do is to blame their suspicious partners for being unfaithful even when they know the truth. So instead of feeling guilty, try changing your time table and become unpredictable. Make surprise visits, go home at unanticipated times. Even if they are too smart, you will get them.
2 Check their friend list
They say birds of the same feathers flock together and eagles and pigeons don’t hang out together. When your partner suddenly changes into someone different, it might have to do with the kind of friends they are hanging out with. It would be wise to meet them and try to get to know them personally. If they are the party kind, cheating on their partners too, it might help you understand your suspicions.
3 Look out for new interests
If you realise your partner has new interests and a sudden interest in how they look, change of style and an obsession with spending on things that didn’t matter before, there might be reason to worry, especially when they no longer consult you on the expenses.
4 Make use of technology
While technology has made it so easy to cheat, it has also made it so easy to catch a cheater. You can now easily follow their movements using whatsApp, Facebook, Google maps and apps like App history. So just because their history is deleted doesn’t mean you can’t see what they have been up to. I hope what you find doesn’t kill you.
5 Accept and face the truth
By the time you are searching for answers and trying to gather evidence, you somehow know the truth in your heart of hearts and are just trying to fight it. It’s not your fault because love is blind but even if it’s painful, the moment you get proof, accept it, and talk to your partner for a way forward.

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