Emmy Kakayi is an accountant who has always found a way to juggle her work, daughter Kelsey, house chores and husband for five years without a maid. But now that baby number two is on the way her husband Josh has been talking her into getting a maid in vain. So he asked me to talk to her. She told me her best friend Norah hasn’t been able to get out of bed for two months since she learnt that her husband slept with their maid. That is heartbreaking and validates her fear. These guidelines will help you maintain a peaceful home with a maid:
1. Vet before you hire. I have visited friends whose maids looked hotter than the lady of the house, dressed better and even smelled better. Sincerely, what do you expect? I am not saying hire only the not-so-good-looking maid but just because you need help at home, take your time and be careful, use your eyes. You don’t want to bring a competitor to your house.
2. Don’t get too comfortable. It’s very common for women to get lazy and totally abandon the home to the maids when they get them. Some get excited and add a second or third, one for the kids, one for the chores and a chef to do the cooking as they look on and command. You are shifting goal posts! Maintain your position as the leader and lady of the house.
3. Understand your man’s weaknesses. Yes, the maid is a woman and human like you. If you know your man has a weakness for bummy, stay away from those. If you have caught him cheating before, then you know he might cheat right under your nose, so don’t tempt him by hiring a live in maid.
4. Be kind. Even if you pay your maid really well for the work she does, it’s important that you find time to give your home a personal touch, help her around and appreciate her. Remember she takes care of every one in your house. If you are always rude and unappreciative of her efforts, hubby will sympathise and try to comfort her.
5. Have terms and conditions. When as a wife you abandon your home to make money or because you feel too loaded to do anything, you are giving your husband time to appreciate the maid for her home making qualities. Make sure you know what is going on in your house and make sure your terms and conditions apply.
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