The problem: Dear Heart to Heart, I have been with my boyfriend for quite a long period and I am pregnant with his child. But when I went for medical check up, the doctor told me that my child has a ‘gastroschisis’ condition which is a situation where the baby’s intestines stick outside of the baby’s body. My boyfriend insists that we abort but I can’t live with it. This is my first child and I believe God has a way. My boyfriend insists that if I don’t get rid of it, then it’s the end of both of us. I love him so much going by what we have been through and I can’t afford to lose my child. What should I do?
Christine Asiimwe: What if your mum aborted you, would you be alive? Don’t you want to feel that happiness when your baby is calling you “maama”.
I hope you know the effects of abortion you may never get a pregnancy again or loose your life. Be ready to be both a mother and a father to your unborn child and start visiting a hospital and follow doctor’s instructions and seek God’s help.
Chris Welo: Ohhh dear, I am telling you this, just be thankful and leave everything to God. He has a way out for you!! It’s just trial, so your boyfriend should be strong and accept his child, things will be better, hospitals are there! That is your baby, your own, so take care
Samuel Morris Jr. God’s ways are not ours. If he wants to go, let him go even if you really love him that much. You never know that could be the begining of him ruling over everything you do. Just stick to your opinion after all abortion is a sin.
Vincent Odongo Okethwengu: Between you and him, whom do you love so much? You may lose your life if you are not serious.
Njenga Elijah: Do not even think about it. You will be the one to suffer irreparable damage if you were to do it. God will give you a way to support your child even without the father.
Jonathan Nsereko: I am a staunch Christian and I believe you can deliver a healthy baby without that condition the doctor told you. All you have to do is have faith in God and pronounce it on your self that you will have healthy baby no matter what report the doctor told you.
At this particular time start believing and trusting God that you will have a healthy baby whose intestines are not out but inside the body.
You go on with praising, thanking God and pronouncing it to your self every day that you will have a healthy baby.
The moment you start such a life style, all your fear will be gone thus delivering a healthy baby. You can back it up with scriptures in the Bible that talk about healing through meditating upon them. Your words have power what you say happens due to tongue. (Read Mark 11:23-24). What have told you is very true in the spiritual realm.
Start proclaiming positivity to your life and a healthy baby with no defect. Don’t look at what the doctor said look unto Jesus Christ and what the bible says and you will get well and fear will be shunned away from your side. God bless you!
2nd Corinthians 3:17 says that where the spirit of God is , there is liberty.
Flavia Apio Jennifer: Let nature take its course. Don’t choose a sin over earthly things. I am sorry to hear that your baby has a gastroschisis condition but there is a lot that can be done medically to help your baby live a normal life after birth.
Your baby can still live a very normal life with an operation done a few hours after birth the intestines put back in the stomach and after a few days heal normally. Please seek medical advice from your doctors so they prepare you for this procedure as it has to be done immediately within hours of birth.
About your boyfriend, if he wants to leave you now and wants you to kill your unborn baby because of a birth defect, what makes you think that he won’t leave you later for any other reason? If he loves you, he will help support you not leave you.
Don’t live to regret because you have a choice in this situation.
Be strong and take courage.
Blac Rose Lambourde: You never know what tomorrow holds dear. You can keep the pregnancy because I have seen many with your condition. I agree you should give the chance. There is a possibility that the child can live.
But, just know the same man telling you to abort is the same one who will stand on his two legs tomorrow and say you killed his child.
Counsellor Henry Nsubuga, director at Counseling and Guidance Center, Makerere University says:
Dear Jennifer, when it comes to such matters, communication is key. So the two of you should first have facts about the predicament, know your chances of correcting this condition and discuss it in an unselfish way. Finally, you can decide without hurting anyone’s feelings. You should be able to also not overlook your boyfriend’s role in this child’s life so you should give his views a little consideration if you are to come to a compromise.
You should also know that in some situations especially those regarding health, values are less significant and a person should weigh on what is the most important. Is it your unborn child or your values?
And if the two of you agree to settle for abortion, it may cause trauma so you must be protected especially since it is against your values. Your boyfriend should be ready to support you once you settle for the option of abortion. You should also consider counselling which will help you adjust to the new reality.
Compiled by Rachel Irene Nalubega
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